A new year... a time to reflect on the past year and consider changes for the coming year.
2010 has in a way been a normal year with a few highlights, it has also been a strange and sad year for me personally but for RopeMarks as well.
In a way RopeMarks activity was very normal this year, we did some great shows for the international Fetish/BDSM scene on small parties (at most 300 people) and for big parties (5000+ people!). Our workshops filled up faster than ever, we got published in several types of media and participated on Fetish/Bondage fairs.
A few highlights of the past year are that we met the well known Nawashi Arisue Go and his partner Kogure, took them to dinner and generally had a great time. We participated in an art exhibition with 6 of our own pieces and on our shoots we met the amazing model Dutch Dame, she really struck a cord...
Now, so far, so good. If you remotely follow us via our own site, our blog or via the different communities you might have noticed a big change. Something we haven't talked about openly yet.
RopeMarks has always been Bob and Chantal for something close to twelve years. In 2010 Chantal and I made the decision to stop our relationship and each go our own way. Chantal also stepped away from RopeMarks leaving it for me to continue. RopeMarks is now just me, Bob.
Ending a relationship of almost twelve years is... not easy. With the things Chantal and I did privatly but also professionally with RopeMarks the level of emotional depth that you reach, the trust and respect you build towards each other is enormous. Not having that has left me personally with a very big gap to handle and overcome but has also left RopeMarks, in a way, crippled.
The personal effect shall remain personal but with a 12 year relationship finishing things, getting on with your life, giving what happened a place are at the moment of me writing this still in progress (and not always nice). The effect for RopeMarks is that there are going to be changes; big changes that will affect all my activities of RopeMarks. Because my time has always been limited and my work has, in a way, doubled, these changes will happen slowly... but surely.
To end on a very positive note, unexpectedly I connected to a girl with whom it turned out I had more in common than I ever could have imagined. I even met Dutch Dame earlier in 2010 but didn't expect us to be where we are now, together.
Everyone all the best wishes for 2011!